HOW ARE YOU FEELING?

“Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself – and specially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is.”   Jim Morrison

We all have feelings. There are moments of extreme joy when positive events happen in our lives. Then there are those moments when the world seems to be crashing in. Bad experiences produce anxiety, depression and a sense of helplessness. We have all been there! Remember, being human allows us to have these emotions. They are natural. But the degree of experience for everyone is different.

One thing I have always disciplined myself to say when someone is going through a difficult life experience is: “I have no idea how you are feeling at this time. Even though I have been through similar situations, my emotional state was my own experience. So, at this time, I want you to know that I am here for you and will be available if I can help in any way.”   Never say that you understand what the other person is going through. You only know your own experience!

I do realize that for some persons, the depression and anxiety are overwhelming and effects their ability to function in a healthy manner. In those instances, reach out to a professional therapist or psychologist for an evaluation and any necessary referrals. It’s OK to reach out for help!

Let’s all be sensitive to those around us who are going through difficult times. When we need the support of friends, reach out to them. They will be there for you, just as you will be there for them!